John Delony

And you have to stop beating up seven-year-old you.

Your parents' challenges were never on you.

And I hate the fact that you were either forced or slowly developed over time a sense of responsibility that it's your job to make sure mom and dad are okay.

That should be no kid's job.

No kid can carry that.

And if you're married to a guy who grew up in a home

full of addiction, loss of parents at young ages, this is going to sound, people are going to go, if all he's doing is using nicotine patches, I'm going to say that's a huge win.

He has a very fragile nervous system.

From how he grew up.

That has nothing to do with you.

And so in a strange way,

him using nicotine pouches so that he can stay regulated is maybe his weird way of saying in a backwards sideways way, I love you enough to do whatever it takes to stay with you.

And is that healthy?

No, no, it's not healthy.

But what, what we can do here is then now I've made up a story.

He responds, he's made up some stories because here's his story.

I can almost guarantee you.

You think, the story I'm choosing to make up is you think I'm weak.

You think I'm not enough of a man for you.

You think I'm gross.