John Delony

There you go.

And what does he say when you say those kind of things to him?

I know, but by putting it on the back burner, you actually went all the way full circle and put all of your internal stories onto him.

So here's the path forward is, hey, I want to talk to you about something.

Here's what I'm seeing and here's what I experienced in my home.

You know this.

I know you experienced this too in your home.

And then here's the important part.

The story I'm choosing to make up is there was something wrong with me when I was a little girl that was so bad that my parents had to drink just to survive my presence.

The story I'm choosing to make up is you have to smoke, you have to vape, you have to use nicotine, you have to use substances because I have not set up a good enough home for you to feel safe in.

Okay, but what I'm telling you is it's not.

It's false.

what matters is less me telling you what's true and more you saying, here's a story I made up and let him have an opportunity to respond.

Your parents, listen to me closely.

Your parents did not struggle with alcohol because of you.

Period.

I know.

You're a child.

You're a kid.

It was never your job to fix.