John Delony

And so...

I don't think you'd be calling if your husband was making inappropriate yet kind of funny jokes.

It sounds like you're, what you're commenting on is the spirit of your husband has changed.

Okay.

But this is happening, not just with jokes and not just with suddenly this newfound racist person in your house.

What's deeper happening?

Where else is this resur... Where else is this surfacing?

Is it surfacing in how he talks to your kids and treats your kids?

Is it surfacing in the bedroom and what he expects of you?

Where is this surfacing?

Is he controlling the money now?

Like, where else is this coming from?

Let's take joke sensitivity off the table because that's so unsubjective.

I mean, so subjective.

Let's pretend you had really sensitive skin.

And he bought you a, I don't know, like a wool jacket.

And it rubbed your forearms in a way that just caused like, it made them raw.

Okay?

And if you said, hey, I love this jacket, I love that you bought this for me, but my skin is really sensitive and it's making my arms bleed, making them itch.

Would he tell you you just got to toughen up and get tougher skin?