John Delony

So somebody has to go to the therapist by themselves and do that hard work, but that can't happen in isolated secret because you've got a partner over here because when you get married, one plus one equals one.

You got a half of an entity over here going, okay, everything's changed, but I'm right here.

I'm all by myself.

I'm not hearing this.

I'm not, right?

And so I hear your situation similar, which is we got married and we created this sacred relationship

Safe place.

And then she said, I'm going to pause this thing.

You keep going.

I'm going over here to explore myself.

And she keeps coming back a different version and a different version and a different version.

And you're saying, hey, hey, hey, like every time you change, we change.

And that's very counter-cultural.

We're not allowed to say those kinds of things in culture anymore, but it's madness because when you're married, one plus one equals one.

And you're wondering how much more are you going to change because we're changing every time you change.

Does that sound right?

Or I'm out to lunch there.

Okay.

Feelings are part of it.

Feelings are some data, but they're not always truth tellers.