John Delony

And for me and my wife, this isn't the question for everybody, but for our house, the question that changed everything for us is how do you want this house to feel when you come home every day?

And he might say something like, I want to come home and not feel like your fourth kid.

I want to come home and you're happy that I'm home.

I want to come home and you're not staring at your phone, but you greet me with a hug or like whatever.

And then y'all reverse engineer.

Okay.

Then here's what must be true.

And then you say, here's what, how I want our house to feel when I get home.

And y'all build that world.

And you both know we've never built this like this before.

And so it's going to be clumsy and we're going to give each other grace.

And if best we can, we'll laugh.

And for me and my wife, we still to this day, we have weekly check-ins.

How are we?

How can I love you today?

We set a goal this year.

And how did you see me holding up my end of the bargain?

What's your reflection with me?

Have you asked him?

He would tell me no.