John R. Miles

And as I was doing research on you, I realized you and I do something similar, but a little bit different.

When we both do public speaking, I oftentimes.

plant a golden ticket under one or two of the chairs in the audience and i start with an ice break about who's got the golden ticket and the golden ticket if they win it is they win a copy of my book but what they don't realize is typically if they get the golden ticket it also means i'm likely going to bring them up on stage for an exercise so they have to earn the book yeah yeah yeah

But you do an example where you ask the audience who wants to win the lottery and what ends up happening?

Do people raise their hands?

You say something fascinating that I've heard you say in a couple other interviews, and that is we don't always get what we want, we get what we expect.

And why are expectations so powerful in shaping our behavior and outcomes?

know when i think about manifestation which has become so hugely popular i often think about the story of matthew mcconaughey and how a decade ago or so he wrote down on a piece of paper these things he wanted to happen in his life and for him they've all seemed to come true but for a lot of people they do vision boards affirmations they ask the universe for things

And so oftentimes it doesn't come true.

You talk about evidence-based manifestation, which you were alluding to, and having to do the real work to make these things come true.

What happens with evidence-based manifestation so people can actually put these affirmations to work in a way where it'll help their brain rather than work against it?

What you're talking about, though, is fundamentally so sad.

Honestly, how many people feel that way?

And...

The statistics, I'm just going off on a tangent here, are pretty eye-opening.

That 64% of workers feel like they don't belong in their work environment.

68% of people feel like they don't belong in the United States.

And 74% of people in America don't feel like they belong in their communities.

There's something fundamentally going on where so many of us

are living in an inauthentic version of who we think we should be.