John R. Miles

And so I realized in my own son that...

If you were going to make mistakes, it's far better to make them when you're young than when they count.

Like I did so many times when I became an adult.

So I started to just put myself into the future about what I wanted him to be like when he got older.

And I realized if I didn't start to think about that future self I wanted him to be, he was going to end up being more like me.

And so that's what finally got me to change.

It's absolutely true.

But if you're a parent like I was and maybe they haven't had the wake up call that I reached, what's the first self check you might want them to try?

I want to just give you a scenario.

So let's say as a child, you grew up in a dysfunctional family where maybe your father was very abusive to your mom.

And maybe that was verbal abuse and it wasn't physical, but it could have been both.

But that's what you grew up seeing.

So now you're an adult and you're having a hard time letting all of that go.

How do you break free from something like that?

And in my own journey, I had to go through CPT.

I went through EMDR.

I went through other went through long therapy exposure.

I went through other modalities.

And this stuff is not it's not easy.

But if you don't get to those stuff points, it's very difficult to lead the life that you want to lead if you've got so much baggage.