John Reeves
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1,814 appearances
4 recordings
1 series
first heard Dec 2023
last heard Feb 2025
John Reeves’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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And I can't think of anything much more tragic than especially a young person taking their lives over some of the things that – and I never thought that voice would penetrate, but it did. And that's why I'm willing to have that conversation. Yeah.
Well, I'm sure it must have been a factor. I discovered that I had two friends. They're roughly my age, and they had young kids, and they took their lives. And they were both in the media, and both one worked for an incredibly elite organization, and another one had a really strong position. One had a heart attack and the other one had a stroke years earlier.
And I found out and I wish I could have talked to them. And I did talk to them. But it doesn't mean they were weak or that they gave up. It's just I got lucky and I found my emergency break and And if you have any kinds of study on people and self-harm, there was an individual, he jumped off the Golden Gate and he survived.
And immediately after he says, as he crossed over the rail and he, I want to live, I want to live. What have I done? It's like I've made a terrible mistake. And you hit the water going 75 miles an hour and it's very against chance of surviving, but he did. And now he became obsessed with this idea, and he looked out for everyone that survived.
And about 45 people out of 1,800 people that have jumped over, they survived. And it was unanimously people immediately like, oh, my God, I want to live. I want to live. I want to live. And not one single person thought, well, I wish I was more successful. So I try to put that forward. And I can't imagine how difficult because –
They had children the same age mine and trying to explain to a 10-year-old son, like, why did daddy leave? And those are dark conversations. And so it's not about weakness. It's about trying to get away from that. People that are suffering from depression, if anyone's been there, it's like your mind is on fire. And you just want to get away from that.
Just please, I need relief from that kind of a thing. And every now and then you have kind of like the eye of the hurricane where you finally thought maybe things could get better. But it roars back in and it's like you get back to that very dark place. And I just tell everybody, I'm begging you, stay in that game. I promise you it can get better. And the depression is lying to you.
It is absolutely lying to you. But don't make the kind of choice that you can't come back from.
I think they reference over 1,800 people. And a small, small tiny survived. And really –
being faced that idea that you're not going to come back it's it's like spontaneously curative like oh my god i want to live i want to live i want to live like it's it's it was unanimous about uh and that's such an important kinds of research that that that he did um and it it's like and and again like that's my message it has to be very simple stay in that game It's like you you can't do this.
You can't do this. And you need support. Yeah. Yeah. You need support, whatever that is. And some people have different kinds of resources. I mean, I would want that for everybody. The resources that I had. That's not fair. It's not fair. And I got lucky. It's not because I'm like I was so much stronger or better. It's like, no, no, I just got lucky on that.
And I promise you, you're not going to regret staying in the game. And you can get better. And that is probably, I think, in my opinion, that's about 75% of getting back better.
My my family, that that's that's really what I like. Every every person needs to have like that emerge. I call that like an emergency break. It's like, you know, you are you're out of control. You know, you're having that the darkest conversation you'll have with yourself and you have to have something to stop that. Otherwise, it's you're going to go over the edge.
And everyone needs to have that, whatever that is, whether it's your family, whether it's your wife or your husband, or whether it is, or this, that there has to be some, it has to get better. It's going to get better. You know, that's why I say stay on the game. And I'm not an expert. I'm not trained in that. But when people reach out to me and say, well, I feel like this.
And I'm like, hey, it's like, you know, help works. I promise you it will get better. And I can't guarantee what your path will be. But what I can say is that stay in that game and you are going to find your way on that path and you're never going to regret. It's like, oh, you know, it's just the finality, the finality of that.
You can make a bad choice and that might set you back in life but that's the one choice you can't come back from and you will leave people in your life that they'll never understand or you wish you could reach back and you could let them know and stay away from that kind of blackness because I promise you, you would regret And if you can't, come back.
The election and everything, I was convinced that I've lost everything. And I had – it was difficult to fully speak. And my kids, they got pulled into the social media kinds of invective. And – It's like, I've destroyed my health. Against odds, I won. Now, am I going to be able to do this job? Would I have been better off if I didn't survive? And I got to that kind of a dark place.
But and then I just had this like that spontaneous where it's like my kids. It's like, no, I love you. Like, oh, my gosh. It's like like when they were visiting. I didn't want them to visit me at Walter Reed. I was like, why would they want to be around this? Right. But they did. And. It was like this kind of spontaneous kinds of love. And it just was like a shot.
And it's just like, I can come back. I can come back. I thought it's like, well, why would they want this mess back? And then, you know, just working through a lot of those things and other kinds of techniques and things. It was like, but that was probably the single most transformative event where it's like I realized that I can come back to my life.
Otherwise, it's like I thought I've lost everything. Would I be able to even do my job? And it's like, do I even have a career? I mean, I'm talking about like that was a significant national story when after I signed myself in and that pulled my kids in through that. I mean, this idea. And after we announced that we're signing in and there were news trucks outside their house and.
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