Jojo Moyes

Not Slough.

And I'm not going to say it's all been easy.

It hasn't.

It's involved therapy.

And what I've discovered, you know, when you've been married for a long time, you settle into certain grooves of behavior.

So I had... There's habits.

Yeah.

Ways of being, ways of arguing, ways of handling conflict or disappointment or vulnerability.

And you just get used to how you're doing it.

And then suddenly...

You're with someone else who is a completely different kettle of fish and they don't play by your rules.

Yeah.

Sorry, the thing that's just making me laugh is when you get together with someone you knew when you were essentially a teenager, there is a large part of you that remains a teenager.

So there is a big part of our relationship that's really childish and stupid.

And fun.

And fun, yeah.

But I think I am a lot more mindful about how I show up.

And I think he is too.

And one of the reasons this has worked is because he is that unicorn of a thing, a man who is prepared to do the work on himself.

And that I know from a lot of my girlfriends who are my age who might be navigating similar situations is actually quite rare.