Jon Acuff

Yeah.

And I mean, even just friends, you mentioned that, like the older you get, the less tolerance you have for friendships that aren't real or friendships that aren't meaningful.

And you say like, Hey, I have a limited amount of time and a little limited amount of like friends slots.

And I want to make sure that I'm,

You know, and this this one is like we're in very different places and that's fine.

But like I want to pour into this one and this one is no longer the type of friend that I'm trying to do.

I'm not in a like cut toxic people out of your life like Instagram way, but just in a I recognize how little time I have and little, you know, and even just marriage like you learn you learn how to talk to each other.

Like the other day, I was so kind of dialed in on my schedule.

My wife was like, hey, I need you to drop me off at the oil change.

I got to get my car picked up.

And I was like, yeah, I could probably fit that in on the calendar.

And she was like, oh, hey.

She was like, hey, pause.

Just so we're clear, you don't pencil me in.

Like that is not how this works.

And she was right.

And I was like, oh, you're right.

Like I'm sorry that I – because I treated her like a task.

And so, like, even having the emotional room to have that conversation with somebody and go, yeah, I'm not a task.

Like, I'm your spouse.