Jonathan Fields

I need to understand my attachment patterns and what I've been exposed to.

I need to understand the cultural imprints that have been on me.

And dot, dot, dot.

I can't go out and find love or do the thing or even try until I actually do all this work.

I don't think that's what you're saying, right?

Yeah, I mean, that makes a lot of sense to me, which brings up another curiosity, right?

So if we have these different things that are sort of invisibly influencing the way that we seek partnership and also step into and actively engage in the process and the experience, it sounds so technical when I say that.

It's like...

Let's just talk about that for a second, though, right?

Because this has got to be one of the things that I would imagine gets brought to you, too.

People are like, I just want to fall in love.

I want the feeling.

I want that thing.

And does it have to be this sort of technical, mechanical, step-by-step intellectual process for me to actually find the thing that I so dearly want?

Or where's the dream part of this?

Where's the softness to it?

Yeah, it was, I feel like it's really easy to sort of like go down this slippery slope of saying, we can break this down to a highly mechanical process.

But like, there's a voice inside so many people that say, like, isn't this supposed to be just more, more intuitive, more emotional, more soft, more alive with electricity?

Or is it a yes and thing?

There's a stat that I've heard.