Jonathan Fields

So let's say somebody has been either out of the dating world for a substantial amount of time or for whatever reason it may be.

They're stepping back into it.

They're really nervous and really uncomfortable and they haven't done this thing in a very long time.

Are there one, two, three, four sort of moments

fairly universal questions that you might guide somebody to like, and the fear is like, I'm going to go, I'm going to sit down, I'm going to freeze.

I'm not going to know what to say.

I'm not going to know what to ask.

Are there a couple of just go-tos for somebody who's just stepping into this where they've got like a couple of things to ask and to say on the tip of their tongue to alleviate that fear?

Yeah, I think... Just like in a very nuts and bolts level.

Yeah.

I want to ask you about something else.

Um,

that can show up in ways that are challenging in a dating context.

And not in any way, shape, or form to denigrate the amazingness of being that woman.

But in those contexts, take me into what you see as both the strong side of this and also where this shows up as struggle or challenge.

Tell me more.

Take me deeper into this.

How?

Like, what's the dynamic that you see unfold when you bring this to a dating context?

It's hard for me to say that makes sense because I'm not that person.