Jonathan Fields

And what you're offering up, if I understand this correctly, is that actually it is possible to reverse that.

Hmm.

So you described what the top qualities were on the dream list.

Do you see similar patterns across now thousands of people on the elevator list?

Is there like a top one, two, and three, which just recur all the time?

Hmm.

So that's people who love me for me and people who will be there for me.

When you say to people, start doing that yourself, are you talking about directed towards other people or directed towards yourself?

Where does vulnerability fall on that list?

So then how does somebody earn your story?

My curiosity is really around the role of vulnerability in finding lasting love.

And because it's uncomfortable for so many people to, quote, go there.

Or as you described, sometimes people just go there out of the gate and you sort of get fire hosed with sometimes performative vulnerability.

Yeah.

So I think we all have, we're tuned into this sense that this is something that really matters in the context of deep, lasting relationships, loving relationships.

But it's a real dance too.

And there's so much often cultural baggage involved.

around how and when you do or don't offer vulnerability.

But if nobody does, and I'm curious, in my experience, if nobody ever opens that door, there is no relationship, no matter how many of the stars align.

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