Jonathan Haidt

And at the same time, while this was happening, the virtual world said, Hey boys, come on in, come on in. When I was a kid, video games were really primitive. We loved them, but they were very primitive. Every few years, they're like an order of magnitude better. Color monitors, fast action, lifelike video, music, multiplayer games. So the video games get more and more incredible.

And at the same time, while this was happening, the virtual world said, Hey boys, come on in, come on in. When I was a kid, video games were really primitive. We loved them, but they were very primitive. Every few years, they're like an order of magnitude better. Color monitors, fast action, lifelike video, music, multiplayer games. So the video games get more and more incredible.

And at the same time, while this was happening, the virtual world said, Hey boys, come on in, come on in. When I was a kid, video games were really primitive. We loved them, but they were very primitive. Every few years, they're like an order of magnitude better. Color monitors, fast action, lifelike video, music, multiplayer games. So the video games get more and more incredible.

The boys get sucked in. The porn gets more and more incredible. High definition video of scenes chosen by algorithms because that's what turned other men on. So the porn is much more addictive, much more. I mean, I can't say it's more. I assume it's more aggressive and violent than it was when when I was, you know, when I was in the 70s.

The boys get sucked in. The porn gets more and more incredible. High definition video of scenes chosen by algorithms because that's what turned other men on. So the porn is much more addictive, much more. I mean, I can't say it's more. I assume it's more aggressive and violent than it was when when I was, you know, when I was in the 70s.

The boys get sucked in. The porn gets more and more incredible. High definition video of scenes chosen by algorithms because that's what turned other men on. So the porn is much more addictive, much more. I mean, I can't say it's more. I assume it's more aggressive and violent than it was when when I was, you know, when I was in the 70s.

Exactly, that's right. And so when, so here's the key thing. Kids need to work and then get the reward of the work. And the thing I most desired when I was in high school was a girlfriend. And it was really hard to get a girlfriend. And I made a lot of effort to do so. And I finally succeeded. And we had a, you know, gradual courtship. And I remember when I first held her hand, it was a big deal.

Exactly, that's right. And so when, so here's the key thing. Kids need to work and then get the reward of the work. And the thing I most desired when I was in high school was a girlfriend. And it was really hard to get a girlfriend. And I made a lot of effort to do so. And I finally succeeded. And we had a, you know, gradual courtship. And I remember when I first held her hand, it was a big deal.

Exactly, that's right. And so when, so here's the key thing. Kids need to work and then get the reward of the work. And the thing I most desired when I was in high school was a girlfriend. And it was really hard to get a girlfriend. And I made a lot of effort to do so. And I finally succeeded. And we had a, you know, gradual courtship. And I remember when I first held her hand, it was a big deal.

So when you're making progress towards a goal, you get dopamine, you get a reinforcing chemical, but it's slow dopamine. It's like you work and you get the reward. It feels so good. That's what you want for your kids. But what's happening with boys is these companies say, hey, boys, you want quick dopamine? You want to play war? Here. War, you know, incredible, vivid war.

So when you're making progress towards a goal, you get dopamine, you get a reinforcing chemical, but it's slow dopamine. It's like you work and you get the reward. It feels so good. That's what you want for your kids. But what's happening with boys is these companies say, hey, boys, you want quick dopamine? You want to play war? Here. War, you know, incredible, vivid war.

So when you're making progress towards a goal, you get dopamine, you get a reinforcing chemical, but it's slow dopamine. It's like you work and you get the reward. It feels so good. That's what you want for your kids. But what's happening with boys is these companies say, hey, boys, you want quick dopamine? You want to play war? Here. War, you know, incredible, vivid war.

And you can get killed 30 times a day. You know, my son plays Fortnite. I kept him off in sixth and seventh grade, but let him on during the pandemic. You know, I mean, it's really powerful, attractive, addictive stuff, exciting. And the same thing for the porn.

And you can get killed 30 times a day. You know, my son plays Fortnite. I kept him off in sixth and seventh grade, but let him on during the pandemic. You know, I mean, it's really powerful, attractive, addictive stuff, exciting. And the same thing for the porn.

And you can get killed 30 times a day. You know, my son plays Fortnite. I kept him off in sixth and seventh grade, but let him on during the pandemic. You know, I mean, it's really powerful, attractive, addictive stuff, exciting. And the same thing for the porn.

And then, oh my God, and then all the vaping and the marijuana pens and the gambling and the sports betting and the crypto betting, all of it is gamified to hook boys. These giant industries are out there to grab your son's attention and suck it dry, leaving him nothing. And if it's gambling, leaving him broke.

And then, oh my God, and then all the vaping and the marijuana pens and the gambling and the sports betting and the crypto betting, all of it is gamified to hook boys. These giant industries are out there to grab your son's attention and suck it dry, leaving him nothing. And if it's gambling, leaving him broke.

And then, oh my God, and then all the vaping and the marijuana pens and the gambling and the sports betting and the crypto betting, all of it is gamified to hook boys. These giant industries are out there to grab your son's attention and suck it dry, leaving him nothing. And if it's gambling, leaving him broke.

Yeah, that's right. And so heterosexual relationships are hard enough. Boys and girls are different on average. The kind of the problems that come up in relationships in marriage therapy are often very gendered and very common across the decades. There are just some natural mismatches between the way men and women are in conversation, et cetera. Okay, that's the way it's always been.

Yeah, that's right. And so heterosexual relationships are hard enough. Boys and girls are different on average. The kind of the problems that come up in relationships in marriage therapy are often very gendered and very common across the decades. There are just some natural mismatches between the way men and women are in conversation, et cetera. Okay, that's the way it's always been.