Jordan Harbinger

I get that he's connecting these dots, and the dots, they make a lot of sense, but yeah, I'm not 100% convinced this is all about her orientation either.

actively seeking out women-only online communities, avoiding male friendships.

That could be a person who's interested in women.

It could also be a person who just doesn't feel safe with men and is struggling to feel at home in her marriage, and she has all kinds of reasons not to feel safe with men.

So maybe we need to make room for a few possibilities here.

Yeah, she could be gay, she could be not gay, she could be sexual or asexual, traumatized, anxious, or some combination thereof, all at the same time.

That's where my head's at.

He wants to be able to give people an explanation before he decides to separate.

He wants to be on solid ground.

He wants to be able to point to something specific so everybody knows why they're separating.

But if she is gay, that's ultimately for her to discover or recognize.

And it's up to her whether she wants to own it and when.

And that could take some time.

I agree.

And that's also what's going to help her understand who she really is.

And is part of that conversation, do you think you might be interested in women?

Going right at it.

Yeah, that might cause her to retreat and hide even more.

I like that.

A straight answer, one might say?