Jordan Harbinger

Don't get me wrong.

Trauma, culture, childhood, personality, all that stuff is powerful.

So I have a lot of compassion for that as well.

Yeah, I mean, he's literally saying, I love you no matter what.

I'm your family no matter what.

Look around.

You're surrounded by allies.

And I'm not sure she's fully honoring the opportunity.

I'm not blaming her per se.

I'm just noticing a big gap in their ways of talking about all of this.

Okay, he obviously wants reciprocal intimacy, a true marriage, but I'm having the same reaction.

He almost seems overly oriented towards everybody else but himself.

I think maybe, because it's possible that she knows he'll keep showing up and drawing her out and she can keep spiraling or avoiding or only sharing selectively.

That's a good question, because I'm sure he's going, but I couldn't be more patient and understanding.

How is this not making her more willing to tell the truth?

But if that patience and understanding are actually enabling her procrastination or avoidance, then suddenly it kind of becomes an obstacle.

Yes.

Okay, that jumped out at me too.

And when you read that, my first thought was, dude, you can't protect everyone all at once.

That's not how this works at all.