Jordan Harbinger

Well, I think we already answered your first question.

There's so much more we'd need to know about these conflicts to weigh in on who's to blame, who needs to apologize, whether you guys should be at the wedding, all of that.

What I can say for sure is, this is not a helpful way to handle a problem.

If your brother and his future wife aren't even willing to talk to you, how are you going to make progress here?

And that leaves you and your fiance with some really tough feelings.

Even if you and or your fiance were in the wrong here, this is both compounding the problem and leaving you with a lot of hurt and a lot of confusion.

And it sucks, it really does.

I'm sorry about that, man.

I assume you'd wanna know if you did something wrong and try to repair things, but they're making that impossible somehow, for whatever reason.

And so I have to assume that this says more about their personalities, their capacity for conflict,

their empathy for you guys, even if your fiance is responsible for some of the low blows that you mentioned.

Gabe, I am barely wrapping my head around how extreme it is to not invite a sibling to your wedding.

The problem would have to be really, really serious.

This can't be a problem that'll eventually blow over or be resolved because this is a permanent decision and they're escalating it.

The brother's not gonna be in the photos.

Everyone at the wedding is going to ask, where's Rob?

Where's Nicole?

And they're going to have to be like, oh, Nicole and Stacy are in a tiff, so we didn't invite them, which is either going to make them look like the childish assholes that they are being, or they're going to have to invent some way worse story to make themselves not look like complete dicks for excluding them.

Which is then, of course, going to further damage our friend here's reputation in the family, and he's going to have to undo that and then explain, like, that didn't happen.

It's just going to cause so much more drama.