Jordan Harbinger

I mean, I get it.

It's hard not to be identified with your position, but they're all adults supposedly, right?

If they can't put their positions down for 10 minutes and hear what it's like for the other person, I don't need to be cruel, but everybody needs to grow the hell up here.

So this is probably pretty complicated, but you have two basic options.

Option one is you continue to reach out to your brother and or his fiance.

You press the issue however you can, respectfully force a conversation so you can resolve this, or at least understand it better.

Maybe you send a couple texts or emails.

Brief, respectful, I'm very confused, I'm sad.

If I did something wrong, I'm happy to talk it through with you.

I'd really appreciate a few minutes with you to understand what's going on.

Try to book that conversation before the wedding.

You might also want to ask a friend or family member to gently encourage them to chat with you

Maybe even mediate if that's necessary.

I know your mom sort of tried and your future sister-in-law shut that down, but maybe mom wasn't the right person or she took the wrong approach.

I don't know.

Option two is you accept the message and you stop trying to repair things, at least for the time being, which means making peace with the idea that you won't be at the wedding, which would be super unfortunate and really sad.

No way around it.

But that seems to be the position that they're boxing you into.

Dude, if you ignore your family member after getting a message like that, assuming they didn't, you know, again, kill their dog or sabotage their business or try to sleep with their wife or something, which isn't the case, because then you would know what you did.

Right.