Josh Laura

It's like, you are doing this in order to have your needs met, to have all of your relational needs met.

And it's like, but what are you bringing to the table?

Because you are just a sort of shell taking on all of this emotionality, taking on all of this person's energy, whoever they're in relationship with.

And so you're like, but what are you doing?

Like, this is what I'm trying to fight against.

And I think using pop culture as examples, I said specifically that like,

We are trained in our society that if you date men, their needs have to – and obviously I'm a man, right?

But like – and I know this and I've – have I benefited from this?

No, because I date losers.

But you are trained in society that if you date men –

Their needs will come before yours.

That we are supposed to like sort of keen and fond and like, oh, my God, he's so sad.

We have to protect him.

We have the poor baby.

But like the whole trope of the sad boy is sort of leaning into this where I'm saying that now because they have become self-aware with the rise of therapy, with the rise of like being able to name so many societal ills that have befallen them or that they're blaming on.

I'm thinking of men in my life now.

I'm like, yeah, the speeches.

They are now using that in order to like, again, entrap and ensnare.

And like, I understand that I'm a sort of hard edged person that I'm a little bit meaner than the average person.

Because there is a read on this that it's like, but why aren't we happy that more men are in touch with their emotions?