Josh van Cuylenburg

Just have the assumption they're going through something hard.

So many people are, and it softens your tone.

It softens your face and it creates patience.

Everyone is going through something.

Number three, I've just, the title here is give specific examples of what you love.

like be specific with when you're telling someone when you sort of reflect.

So the example I have is our child, our neurodivergent child who plays basketball had a really, it was a semifinal.

It was so loud.

It was sensory overload and the game is really close.

And it was a very rough team who were playing very physical, especially with our child.

And they just kept – so one of my best friends, Dolly, who I've spoken about before, Dolly came to the game because he's just a lovely supportive friend, brought his son along and he was standing behind me for the whole game and my child kept running off during the game because they were overwhelmed by the – it was too much for the neurodivergent brain and they would run off in tears and it happened four or five times in the second half.

They were overwhelmed, screaming and it was –

And truly one of, it was, I would say it was my hardest moment as a parent that I've ever been through.

And it was amazing to have an old best friend from school there.

And he called me afterwards.

We got through it.

Our child got through it.

I was so proud.

And they went back on the court.

They came off five times.