Josh van Cuylenburg

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3,043 appearances 22 recordings 1 series first heard Jan 2026 last heard yesterday

Josh van Cuylenburg’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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The Imperfects · Our Phone Odyssey Begins · 19 Jul 2026 podcast

The question that is asked is, who would you rather be?

This person who's had so much success, so much charm, seems to travel through life with no impedance.

Everything just seems easy for them.

Or the person that feels like everything is a struggle and everything is hard and doesn't seem to be able to do things naturally or as well as their brother.

And

the way that the, um, the way some of the, I may as well quote a little bit here and sorry, this is a bit all over the place, but, um, and this is why I don't want, what I think is interesting about this.

And I think hopefully we can talk about this later is how I think wrong my assessment of you was, and also how you've changed and how I've changed since then.

Um, but it says here, um, in proofs view, we don't really learn anything properly until there's a problem.

And an area in which Robert appeared, the only area in which Robert appeared to trail his brother was his ability to notice things.

But it's worth pointing out that feeling things, which usually means feeling things painfully, is at some level linked to the acquisition of knowledge.

And it was at that point in reading this that I thought, I...

I feel things and I notice things and I'm suffering here, but this doesn't have to be a problem.

There can be real beauty and learning in this.

And it changed my opinion to, well, maybe Hugh isn't superior to me in every single way in my life.

And maybe me feeling like this is an opportunity to grow, to learn, to notice more and to lean into it.

And it's a tricky area because I don't think you want to be sort of falling into a cult of suffering because I think that's quite easy to be sort of lured into this idea that you have to suffer to create.

As he says here, before subscribing uncritically to a romantic cult of suffering, it should be added that suffering has on its own never been quite enough.

Quiet enough.

In that it's easier to lose a lover than to complete In Search of Lost Time, the book.

So you can't just suffer alone.

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