Julia Dhar

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How do we handle people who refuse to change?

So I know we've spoken a lot about this relational factor.

Maybe you have parents who refuse to change.

You have a partner who refuses to change.

You have friends who are enabling a problem just as much as you are probably enabling them as well.

What do we do?

Do we call out their behavior?

When do we just decide that maybe we need to just not be in that situation?

It's a fine line.

Do you have any advice for people who are dealing with that?

It is so seductive to think a lot about how other people need to change.

Trust me, I spent my whole life working on change and the best is the kind where you get to stay exactly the same and other people have to change.

Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot of that out there.

And so instead of really...

I'm going to say occupying our mental and emotional headspace with the ways that other people need to change.

The safest assumption is that you can't change other people.

It's not that other people don't change.