Julia Furlan

Okay.

I am at the post office.

And in the interest of full transparency, I'm mailing the care package.

Sure, it's been two and a half years, but why would I make this episode if I wasn't going to take my own advice?

All right.

The thing has been mailed.

You will be surrounded by people who are grieving at work, at school, and in your various friend and family groups.

And in a perfect world, maybe the kind of world I want to live in, grief is a community task.

And it's okay to play your role in it.

Dr. Harris talked about it as a ring of concentric circles.

Depending on your relationship to the person who's grieving, you can show up the way that it makes sense.

Marissa told me a story about when she lost her mom.

She was barely 25 and working on Wall Street.

There was another woman on the team who was a bit younger than Marissa, but this woman had lost a brother, so she knew how grief worked.

and some candy.

You don't have to be somebody's best friend in the world to reach out when they're grieving.

In fact, you could be the kind of person who makes Marissa happy cry about Sour Patch Kids more than a decade later.

Making a small gesture that says, I see you, can really make an impression on the person who's grieving.

Avi's brother was diagnosed with a brain tumor in 2007 at 28 years old.

And he had a surgery where they got most of it, which at the time seemed pretty good.