Julia Shaw

It's like, oh, such an idiot.

She was so gullible.

Was she?

Or was she just a nice person who wanted to believe that this person was capable of loving her?

Which I would hope we all are.

Yeah.

That's right.

That's right.

Yeah.

Well, and coercive control is becoming more of an issue where that's when somebody, for example, in a relationship takes control of the finances.

And that's often a man in a relationship.

That's sort of traditionally because it falls often along these gender lines.

But the problem is that that person then starts to weaponize the fact that they're controlling the finances and starts using words like, I'm going to give you your allowance instead of going, you've paid as much into this as I have.

And so this is our shared money and starts using that.

And controlling things and controlling how the other person lives in that relationship, that's when you get into things that are called course of control.

And things like jealousy can also be used in that way.

I have non-traditional views on jealousy.

I'm not a jealousy researcher, but I have done some research on sexuality.

And I...

personally think that jealousy is basically always a red flag.