Julia Shaw

So the love of multiple people.

And it's lying and it's...

It doesn't have to be that way.

So I'm polyamorous and I believe that you can love multiple people.

I don't know that everyone is always going to meet lots of people at the same time that they're going to love.

But I think that there's been a move towards more people embracing open relationships and non-traditional relationship structures.

And I think that is healthy to at least have as an option.

I think the idea that there's this one size fits all for relationships is really harmful to a lot of people.

And it just doesn't really work for everybody.

And I guess with jealousy, what I'm thinking of is actually not an instance of jealousy.

So where you have a feeling of, I feel left out or I feel it's more that sort of persistent feeling of I am a jealous person.

And that's where I would say that is usually a red flag.

And you're right.

It's a red flag partly because it means the person's probably bad at communicating or

you are as a couple like it's not necessarily just the person's fault um it's just that there's something happening in this dynamic that is that is bad psychologically and that should be addressed or maybe it's not the right relationship so the fact that a lot of people cheat does that mean every single person that cheated does that mean they're probably not going to be good at monogamy

That's exactly what psychologists do all the time.

But why deny yourself the beautiful spectrum of human experience?

I mean, it's like eating one meal for the rest of your life.

Like, why?

You don't have to do that.