Julius Graham

You know, she's gone.

That morning, I was leaving, supposed to leave, you know, that morning, that very morning.

So I've never forgiven myself for that.

I was too late.

And I just, I've carried that.

I've carried that for many years and it's good to hear and it's nice to hear that it wasn't my fault because I felt so, I tortured myself about that.

The woman who raised me from a baby, who took me in and raised me, I didn't see her before she passed away.

And I made that, I also included that into my identity of

oh, now you're just not a good person.

You didn't even see your grandmother before she passed away.

And so I've lived with that.

I was taught to grind it out.

and willpower it out and discipline it out.

And I was the guy who spent 46 hours in the gym as well.

And so I could never work out enough.

And then something really struck me.

This woman here, who is the hardest working person I know, the most disciplined, who has all the willpower, who has all the grit, as you said, if she can't do it, how am I going to do it?

How am I going to do it?

I didn't stand a chance.

So that clicked for me, but it took a while.