Justin

But that's about discovering everything about each other and what it looks like being together.

Then you go into the next phase.

Maybe we coined the term for it.

That's what discovering what life like them is going to be like, that goes beyond them.

It's not just them and their hobbies and their friends.

Now we're going into

family, what they want in the long term, you start to look at the big picture.

Who your in-laws are gonna be.

And the beauty about being in that three year, two to three year mark, is you start to get a preview of what forever is gonna look like.

And you have to believe it.

Just like when someone shows you their true self, believe them, when someone shows you or when the situation shows you its true self, you believe it.

You can't progress further into- Don't keep the blinders on.

Engagement and marriage thinking, oh, it'll get better, it'll change.

You have to sort out and use your radar to determine if that is going to start changing now before we start committing to further things, because it won't change.

We're looking at forever.

Are you down with this or not?

And if not, which is what we're gathering here, now's the time to start figuring out if that can change, not hoping that it will.

We need to start seeing change and making change now, otherwise it never will.

Oh, yeah, because it sounds like you've been the perfect partner.

You have thought through every way to help.