Kail Lowry

Even co-parenting, you kind of, you kind of mentioned this, I heard this, you kind of mentioned this when you're talking to other people.

on podcasts and whatnot.

I feel like when you're co-parenting, especially when you're doing 50-50, when they come back, if you think you're dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, right, or toxic co-parent, when they come back home,

It's kind of like you have to give them a decompression zone.

You know, it's kind of like when you come back from space or some kind of area where there's an outbreak, you have that hazmat suit on, you got to get sprayed down.

You have to have that at the door.

When you first come in, right, they have to have somewhere where they can sit and decompress.

And they have to trust you emotionally, like the other parent, because the non-narcissistic parent, the...

the burden of the emotional safety is going to depend on you most times, right?

It can be unfair, but then sometimes what ends up having to happen when you're dealing with a narcissistic parent who's typically trying to just do too much, you know, they're just, watch when your mom says this or when your dad says this and you go over there, like they're planting seeds that grow, you know, they're trying to plant seeds.

They can say it online and hopefully kids will hear it.

They can post a video or something like that and they just think the kids will hear it one day and they can plant a seed, right?

They do things like that.

They can just plant seeds and later on they hope that they hear some type of negative thought or negative thing and you can make your own decision about it.

But that's why I said, that's why good healthy communication with your kids helps out.

It helps alleviate that burden right there.

Yeah.

Just being able to talk, just literally being able to talk to your kids helps out.

I think for the first few years of my oldest son's life, especially in my middle son, it probably wasn't the best, right?

I love my kids and care for my kids, but it's still more I was on my own journey.