Kail Lowry

their kids, their coworkers, maybe their parents, whoever they're dealing with.

I used to have that mindset, but it's very difficult to help narcissists, right?

Because you have to be in that mindset to want to receive help.

You have to be, it's kind of like you, just imagine a narcissist walking around in it, you know, that armor and those shields that people used to wear back in the day, the knights.

Like, just imagine them walking around clinking around in an armor.

You have to be willing to take the armor off and show your heart a little bit, you know, to be vulnerable at least a little bit in order to receive some help and some

constructive criticism or to take accountability.

Most people don't want to do that.

They want to keep their armor on.

They'll actually put another sheet of armor on.

Like, this is not enough coats.

I'm gonna put another coat of armor on.

But I think for narcissists, accountability is like, when I, it really does feel like, when I have to truly apologize, it feels like physical pain.

I have physical reactions.

Like I get chill bumps.

It's like somebody's stabbing me.

Yeah.

A hundred percent.

But I have to go through, I have to go through that because I know it's the best.

Right.