Kail Lowry
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I visualize shame as this like 15 foot Goliath giant, right?
Black with a club that's walking in ready to bash you with something.
She's like, you, you have a shame monster.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's why you're afraid of it.
That's why you exchange, that's why you try to get away from it.
That's why you try to avert or divert attention from shame.
Humanize it.
So if shame was another man sitting beside you or a person sitting beside you, what would you say to it?
And that just changed my perspective on it because it's kind of like shame is like the monster under the bed.
Like when you're a kid, like you look under the bed, you see those red eyes.
Oh God, it's a red eyes under the bed.
But if you shine a flashlight, it's a cat, right?
It's not a monster.
It's a cat.
You were making it something bigger than what it is.
You have to be willing to realize that shame, I personalize it.
It's like the shame is a person instead of a monster.
And it helped me to deal with it because I'll deal with a man.