Karen Doherty

I do not, Alex, but I scream at my kids because they do.

I do not, Alex, but I scream at my kids because they do.

Well, you definitely have to stop shouting because that's just underpinning everything he already thinks. So your first clue is actually you're not going to shout. You're not going to shout. You're going to furnish him with loads of information about your brilliance and your ADHD and how it shows up. Then you're going to sit down and talk to him about the things that you don't find quite so easy.

Well, you definitely have to stop shouting because that's just underpinning everything he already thinks. So your first clue is actually you're not going to shout. You're not going to shout. You're going to furnish him with loads of information about your brilliance and your ADHD and how it shows up. Then you're going to sit down and talk to him about the things that you don't find quite so easy.

You don't find quite so easy in how you can just get a little bit agitated and basically you're going to educate your partner around what happens to you because he or she probably doesn't know, probably doesn't understand it. And the more that you shout, the more that you both shout, the more that you get in the ring, the more you fight, that's not going to help anything.

You don't find quite so easy in how you can just get a little bit agitated and basically you're going to educate your partner around what happens to you because he or she probably doesn't know, probably doesn't understand it. And the more that you shout, the more that you both shout, the more that you get in the ring, the more you fight, that's not going to help anything.

It's just going to reinforce the fact that actually, ooh, that ADHD, don't really know what to do with that child. You can't do that. So it is about not shouting first and foremost and then telling them all the good things and the challenges. But the good things first, please, because there's so many of them.

It's just going to reinforce the fact that actually, ooh, that ADHD, don't really know what to do with that child. You can't do that. So it is about not shouting first and foremost and then telling them all the good things and the challenges. But the good things first, please, because there's so many of them.

Come on, any one of us likes a bit of praise and a little bit of, you know, we don't have to be endy to really, you know, respond well to that. The things that, it's so simple. It's kindness. It's receptivity, if you like, reciprocity. It's being, it's so important to sort of lay those positive foundations just to be kind. So many people lose the habit of being kind to their partner.

Come on, any one of us likes a bit of praise and a little bit of, you know, we don't have to be endy to really, you know, respond well to that. The things that, it's so simple. It's kindness. It's receptivity, if you like, reciprocity. It's being, it's so important to sort of lay those positive foundations just to be kind. So many people lose the habit of being kind to their partner.

And it makes such a difference. Um, I was in a session a few days ago and we were talking about, you remember that defensive response. And, um, actually it was on a, it was on a group call. It's this, this couple calls that I've written for ADHD aware. So everybody must get on there. But, um, we were talking about how the, we, to, to create a narrative, a kind narrative and,

And it makes such a difference. Um, I was in a session a few days ago and we were talking about, you remember that defensive response. And, um, actually it was on a, it was on a group call. It's this, this couple calls that I've written for ADHD aware. So everybody must get on there. But, um, we were talking about how the, we, to, to create a narrative, a kind narrative and,

Instead of launching into, so a couple are having a conversation and somebody gets triggered, but instead of launching into a defense, actually having a script, you know, thank you for saying that. I'm going to think about that and move away. It just changes the whole tone of the conversation for both.

Instead of launching into, so a couple are having a conversation and somebody gets triggered, but instead of launching into a defense, actually having a script, you know, thank you for saying that. I'm going to think about that and move away. It just changes the whole tone of the conversation for both.

for both just trying to not lose that just trying to not become that sort of agitated impassioned aggressive person and just try and hold it and be positive and say god that's great thank you thank you thank you and then then what go away and calm down but just changing the narrative changing the script it just makes such a difference and being positive being positive about it you know we've got a great relationship we just have we've just got challenges

for both just trying to not lose that just trying to not become that sort of agitated impassioned aggressive person and just try and hold it and be positive and say god that's great thank you thank you thank you and then then what go away and calm down but just changing the narrative changing the script it just makes such a difference and being positive being positive about it you know we've got a great relationship we just have we've just got challenges

You're just going to dilute the impact. You're going to say, no, that was brilliant. Thank you. No, that's great. Thank you. That's it. That's all about reciprocity, isn't it? Understanding, sort of being compassionate, being able to understand what's going on.

You're just going to dilute the impact. You're going to say, no, that was brilliant. Thank you. No, that's great. Thank you. That's it. That's all about reciprocity, isn't it? Understanding, sort of being compassionate, being able to understand what's going on.

Three rules to live by. Oh, how fascinating. I like this. Three rules to live by. Prioritize yourself. Putting yourself first means you can look after others. Be kind. It costs no money and everyone can be kind. Always think about what you eat. Eating better is great fuel for your brain. Not wrong. Not wrong. Oh, this is Louise Newsome. I love her.

Three rules to live by. Oh, how fascinating. I like this. Three rules to live by. Prioritize yourself. Putting yourself first means you can look after others. Be kind. It costs no money and everyone can be kind. Always think about what you eat. Eating better is great fuel for your brain. Not wrong. Not wrong. Oh, this is Louise Newsome. I love her.