Karen Doherty

Yes, I think there are more extreme challenges when there's ADHD, AS, ND in a relationship. I just want to add here that actually that's getting less, I believe, because people are so much more informed about these conditions. When I first started working, nobody knew. And that was a critical tipping point when people suddenly understood, OK, I've got ADHD. then this actually changes things.

Yes, I think there are more extreme challenges when there's ADHD, AS, ND in a relationship. I just want to add here that actually that's getting less, I believe, because people are so much more informed about these conditions. When I first started working, nobody knew. And that was a critical tipping point when people suddenly understood, OK, I've got ADHD. then this actually changes things.

It's a different lens. But there are definite challenges. There's challenges in every relationship. You know, long-term relationships are nothing other than hard work and lots of love, lots of resilience, lots of coming back. But they're worth it. I think they're worth it. If you see people who do it, they will all say, well, you know, it was worth it. But definitely there are specific challenges.

It's a different lens. But there are definite challenges. There's challenges in every relationship. You know, long-term relationships are nothing other than hard work and lots of love, lots of resilience, lots of coming back. But they're worth it. I think they're worth it. If you see people who do it, they will all say, well, you know, it was worth it. But definitely there are specific challenges.

Well, Jekyll and Hyde comes in a lot. Yes, it does. And I've heard that said an awful lot. Interestingly, less these days. Less these days as partners and couples are more aware. But it's true, isn't it? What you're really talking about is mood regulation. And it is one of the most difficult aspects.

Well, Jekyll and Hyde comes in a lot. Yes, it does. And I've heard that said an awful lot. Interestingly, less these days. Less these days as partners and couples are more aware. But it's true, isn't it? What you're really talking about is mood regulation. And it is one of the most difficult aspects.

aspects of nd um you know people wake up in different moods everybody does that alex you know we all wake up in a different mood but if you if there's a if it triggers and it changes from one from one mood to another in a rapid in a rapid sort of sequence it can confuse people it's it's difficult but again it's partners recognizing what's going on both of them recognizing that make that sort of dilutes the intensity of it i think or the impact of it

aspects of nd um you know people wake up in different moods everybody does that alex you know we all wake up in a different mood but if you if there's a if it triggers and it changes from one from one mood to another in a rapid in a rapid sort of sequence it can confuse people it's it's difficult but again it's partners recognizing what's going on both of them recognizing that make that sort of dilutes the intensity of it i think or the impact of it

Well, that's probably the attraction, isn't it? You know, that very regimented person needs a bit of a chaotic, creative mash-up to get, you know, the other side to start living something else. So it's probably part of the original attraction. Sadly, like in any couple, original attractions can cause the most problems. But it's management of that, isn't it? It's management of it.

Well, that's probably the attraction, isn't it? You know, that very regimented person needs a bit of a chaotic, creative mash-up to get, you know, the other side to start living something else. So it's probably part of the original attraction. Sadly, like in any couple, original attractions can cause the most problems. But it's management of that, isn't it? It's management of it.

And actually, you know, a couple working together, that order could help the chaos a little bit, as long as it doesn't cause head-to-heads.

And actually, you know, a couple working together, that order could help the chaos a little bit, as long as it doesn't cause head-to-heads.

Mood dysregulation is a big one, and included in that is the RSD, rejection sensitivity dysphoria, which is, as you know, has now been sort of explains some of the mood dysregulation. That is definitely a constant. The communication issues.

Mood dysregulation is a big one, and included in that is the RSD, rejection sensitivity dysphoria, which is, as you know, has now been sort of explains some of the mood dysregulation. That is definitely a constant. The communication issues.

The way that the different brains process information, experience things, that difference is difficult because people, not so much these days, but people sometimes assume that the other is the same as them because they love them so much. They just assume, oh, well, we're the same. And it's just not with an ND relationship. Even if you've got two NDs in a relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean

The way that the different brains process information, experience things, that difference is difficult because people, not so much these days, but people sometimes assume that the other is the same as them because they love them so much. They just assume, oh, well, we're the same. And it's just not with an ND relationship. Even if you've got two NDs in a relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean

that those NDs are complementary, okay? They can still be very different and need to be known.

that those NDs are complementary, okay? They can still be very different and need to be known.

Oh, I really hope not. I'd work to not let that happen. You're not unlovable. RSD is a reaction, okay? It's a reaction. It's part of the condition. It's how you process information. Now, how you process information is very much dependent on your experience and where you've come from. So when you get triggered by the RSD, it's important to start recognizing it as such.

Oh, I really hope not. I'd work to not let that happen. You're not unlovable. RSD is a reaction, okay? It's a reaction. It's part of the condition. It's how you process information. Now, how you process information is very much dependent on your experience and where you've come from. So when you get triggered by the RSD, it's important to start recognizing it as such.