Kate Legge

It's such a pity.

Because it's time.

I think it's the passage of time.

It tempers the emotions and it changes the perspective.

It brings a shift in perspective.

And I think that it really is a healing thing.

And this is what the book did for me.

It was putting one word in front of the other, trying to explain what had happened, trying to understand what had happened from both sides, walking in the shoes of Greg's grandmother, walking in the shoes of Luda, who I interviewed for the book before she tragically died,

I was able to understand more about the passion that, you know, ignites affairs.

And there's a wonderful quote from Midsummer Night's Dream where Shakespeare writes, lovers and madmen share such seething brains, such shaping fantasies, they apprehend more than cool reason can ever comprehend.

And I got a real insight into that.

It gave me, you know, brought a sense of peace because I could understand how these two people had completely ignored, you know, the consequences of their behaviour.

because you don't.

You don't when you're in that spiral of passion.

True forgiveness takes enormous strength.

Can people mistake that for weakness?

I think they can, yes.

And in fact, I expect to get a bit of that from people who say, well, he lied to you for 20 years.

Why would you forgive him?

Well, why?