Kate Morris

And I think that's like the hardest thing to do, right?

Like actually looking at

Would I be friends with myself?

Because I've had periods.

You guys know in the episode we did about like how to make friends as an adult, I spoke about how I created weird friendship dynamics.

And I had to look myself in the mirror and go, okay, the friends are not the problem.

It's actually me.

And sometimes asking yourself the classic case of like everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager.

It's like if I am expecting so much of my friends in terms of level of effort, you sure as shit believe that I'm also putting in that level of effort.

Like I can't sit here and complain saying I want better friendships if I'm not willing to also look inward and go, hey, am I actually a good friend?

And then also off the back of that is like making an effort for the things that your friends deem important will also make you a better friend.

So like, for example, if your friend loves celebrating her birthday,

That's one day out of the whole year that you've known about for the last however long you guys have been friends with.

Make sure you're free that day to go and see her if she wants to celebrate it.

If your friend is excited about a promotion that she's gotten for work,

Listen to her, allow her to have her moment, allow her to come to the table and talk about it and get excited for her.

Ask questions.

Don't just go, oh yeah, cool.

And brush it off and start talking to somebody else or change the topic.

Like actually let your friends have their moment, get excited.