Kate Murphy

You cannot experience synchrony virtually.

If you're not in another person's physical presence, you really can't experience synchrony to its fullest and richest extent.

Well, thank you so much.

Happy to be here.

Well, it's that feeling of resonance and it can be romantic, it can be platonic, but it's when you meet someone and it's that instant feeling of ease and attraction and the conversation is effortless and you just feel connected.

Well, this is something that writers, poets, philosophers have been trying to wrap their heads around for centuries.

But it's only recently that scientists have started to wonder what causes that feeling.

What is it?

Is it pure magic and mystery?

But is there something that's identifiable as to what's happening within us when we feel that?

Because it is almost physical.

When you have that connection, that click, it's almost a whole body experience.

And because of advances in technology, they have come to realize that not only do, when we have these moments of feeling like we're clicking with someone, not only do we start to mirror one another's facial expressions, postures,

and gestures, it's also uncannily we start to sync up our respiration, our heart rate, our pupil dilation, and our hormonal activity.

So there's a lot, it's actually measurable.

You can see that moment.

And when we have these meaningful conversations and have shared experiences, there's also a related and associated syncing of neural patterns and brain waves.

So you can actually see now we can actually see that it's a whole neuro physiological phenomenon beyond just the emotional feelings that we have.

Well, that's the thing about clicking.

And what they call it, what scientists call it, is interpersonal synchrony.