Kate Murphy

And the research also shows that when people aren't looking at each other, whether their backs are turned to each other or they're looking at a phone, they're much less likely, and also it's pretty hard, to develop any type of synchrony.

So, I think people are really, who are just relying on virtual relationships.

You can, to some degree, feel like you've experienced some degree of synchrony, but then often, as often happens in online dating, when people meet face-to-face, they're sorely disappointed because they're just not feeling it.

It's just, the click does not happen.

And even when you're in the same room, to really be present and notice that, because you have to be aware of notice to be able to have that moment of connection, of clicking with another person.

And you bring up another point that when we were talking about those commonalities of experience, we have so few of those now, if you think about it.

we're not going to the same movies in a movie theater anymore.

We're not getting our news from the same sources.

We're kind of in our own little curated bubbles of what we're paying attention to.

And so when we do come together, there are fewer

Commonalities, fewer starting points, fewer common neural patterns that we can sync up to and latch onto.

And it's not to say we can't eventually, but that clicking, it takes more work to get a read on the other person and to try and understand where they're coming from.

Thank you, Mike.

Same to you.