Kate Murphy

You know, without us knowing it, it's in every twitch and neural oscillation within us encompasses who we are.

And other people somehow someway pick up on that and sync with us or not.

And so there is really some magic to it.

Commonalities can help, but not necessarily.

There's still that mystery and magic to it.

The thing I love about this is that you can actually see it happening and realizing how much

We are almost like tuning forks roaming the planet, looking for resonance and finding it or not with other people and moving into it and out of it with other people.

And that's what essentially makes up our social lives.

It's a fairly common experience for most people, but there are things that can make you less likely to click.

The research clearly shows that people who have autism or ADHD, that can interfere with synchrony.

It's not that you can't click with people, but it makes it a lot harder.

Also, some psychological disorders like depression and anxiety and narcissism can make it more difficult to click with people.

So I won't say that I would hope most people do or experience clicking.

And when you aren't clicking with people, that's when you have things like loneliness and what we call this loneliness epidemic.

And a lot of that also has to do with because you cannot experience synchrony virtually.

Because as we've discussed, it is a multimodal phenomenon.

It encompasses more senses than the five we take for granted.

And so if you're not in another person's physical presence,

You really can experience synchrony to its fullest and richest extent.

And by the way, eye contact is really very important.