Kate Murphy

So there is something about synchronized activities, line dancing, singing, where people just naturally, it makes them more available and makes people more likely to develop affinities for one another.

It's the thought that because you are sinking on certain levels, it makes you more likely to sink on those deeper levels.

So there's that.

There's also being really engaged with other people, being really curious and being open and allowing it to happen, to give yourself over to the various

Signals that we can measure and also can't measure that may be coming from the other person.

So it's really making yourself actually just be a good listener, asking questions and really allowing yourself to get on the other person's wavelength.

So, you know, though at the end of the day, it's really that peculiar alchemy between you and another person.

You can make yourself, you know, almost like put up your antenna, make sure that you're available and that you really are paying attention to the other person and allowing them in.

Yeah, charisma's the right word.

And yes, there are people that just, they tend to have this magnetism, and they tend to actually be able to get people to sink to them, to get on their wavelength.

They're not necessarily...

It's not sort of a mutuality, it's more people are joining their wavelength and clicking with them.

They're able to draw people in.

And there are people like that that may become politicians, they may become preachers, where

They have this ability to really inspire and bring people along with the things that they're thinking.

And they may be better at syncing, because I talk about that, because there's a difference between syncing with a crowd versus syncing with an individual, reading a room versus reading another person.

And so there are different abilities in that sense of being able to, because there, as we, I mean, I think most people have been walked into maybe a party or a performance where you can totally read the crowd.

It's not like you're reading each individual, but you're reading the room, the energy in the room.

And so some people who have that kind of charisma are mostly better able to deal with large crowds or to do like quick sample syncs with other people, but perhaps aren't able to have sustained synchronies with individuals.

that's one thing i love about this is that it is so peculiar to the two individuals and what they bring whether it's their history because if you think about it our whole we embody everything that's happened to us