Kate Murphy

And in fact, there really isn't.

You can yearn to and want to and hope for, but you haven't clicked with that person.

It has to be mutual.

Because that's the feeling that is really so rewarding and uplifting and really makes you feel that sense of connection.

Exactly.

You just didn't click.

You're yearning for it.

And I mean, we all want that.

We all want to be liked and we want that sense of connection.

But, you know, try as you might, you can't make yourself love someone.

And also, by the same virtue, you can't make yourself not love someone.

So, you know, once you've reached that moment of when you have clicked with someone, you can't really undo it.

And by the same token of the things that you're talking about, where you want to, you wish you would, but sometimes you're just not a good fit.

And that's okay.

I think a lot of it, it either happens or it doesn't happen.

It's that peculiar alchemy.

But I will say that you can make yourself more receptive to it and make yourself more available to it happening.

And like I mentioned, doing these synchronized activities, I mean, when you think back to Aristotle,

and the peripatetics.

I mean, there was a reason why he lectured these students while walking around the grounds or why Steve Jobs always invited people he wanted to influence to walk around with him.