Kate Murphy

It's also all these under the hood things that are happening, the the respiration, the heart rate and a lot of things they can't even measure yet.

But we have this instinct to sync with another person.

We like to connect.

That's what feels good.

But there is a special alchemy.

When you think about all the unlikely friendships and romantic pairings where you think, oh, I never would have put those two together.

Well, they likely wouldn't have either.

There is a special alchemy between two people, between their bond,

bodily oscillations.

I mean, we're made up of trillions of cells.

The way I like to think about it is that we're all kind of like these walking symphony orchestras.

And we have all of these instruments playing at different frequencies and different amplitudes.

And when we meet another person, they have their whole orchestra playing as well.

And other people may recognize or appreciate the tune you're playing or just a certain couple of few instruments in your orchestra.

And you can sync on certain levels but not in others.

And there's some where you can just join in in harmony all together.

So it really, it just depends on where you are in your life as well as those underlying ineffable factors that causes you to be in tune.

to click, to be in harmony.

I love all these turns of phrase that people have been saying, you know, since well before anybody thought to measure why it was true, but things like in-step, in-tune, in-harmony, on the same wavelength, clicking, it's all actually true on all these subconscious and autonomic levels.

I don't think there's such a thing as a one-way click.