Katherine Reynolds Lewis

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 111: Katherine Reynolds Lewis Tells us the Good News About Bad Behavior · 5 Jun 2018 podcast

And when we take into the big perspective, um, keep that at the forefront of our mind.

We're we're not worried about that one day in third grade or the, you know, moment in the grocery store at age four.

We're we're really supposed to be focused on age twenty-five or thirty-five when our kids are capable and independent and they will never get

To be independent if we don't start letting them practice now.

So for them to learn self-control, we have to start giving up control.

And it's a process throughout our child's life and development that we begin with them as tiny babies and we're in charge of everything.

And from that moment, we need to think of our goal as constantly expanding the circle of things they're responsible for.

and shrinking our part of that role until we completely work ourselves out of the job of being the parent because they can take over everything and launch successfully into the world and again make choices that maybe we might disagree with, but

they can learn from them and take ownership of those choices.

I always say to my kids, I say your job is to figure out who you are.

and how, you know, you are gonna be in the world, what fills you with passion and what you're gonna contribute.

And my job is to support you because I can't make those decisions.

I'm not gonna know and or be able to tell what they should do that's gonna be their passion.

And one of the other people that I followed in my book, Vicki Hoffel, who wrote a book called Duct Tape Parenting.

She said you know, in one of the scenes in my book that if your child is suddenly diagnosed with a fatal illness, you're not gonna care about that missed homework or the broken coffee pot or whatever the thing in front of you that's amping you up right now is.

So that's another way to keep it in perspective.

Is this is this really life or death, or is this something that's a learning opportunity?

Oh, that's a great question.

Um, and yeah, I it's so interesting with Alfie Cohn.

I I read that book when

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