Kati Morton

Consider those thought processes because that's the why behind it is because we didn't have all that information.

We didn't understand why our parent wasn't there all the time.

We just filled it in with what we knew.

And unfortunately, that usually means we make it our fault.

It's our fault and we have to do something to change it.

It shapes a lot of it.

I guess I would say that when we're children, going back to that blueprint,

We have certain beliefs early on as we're learning along the way about what it means to be another person in our family.

We also learn what it means to be on our own as we reach our teen years is when we try to push back against our family and become more independent.

And depending on how our family reacts to that or supports that, that can change.

Anna Gainey- affect our ability to act on our own to be autonomous to feel like we can do things outside of that and.

Anna Gainey- there's so many factors here, but just depending on the way that we were raised if it was okay or not okay to do something on your own or to push back against.

your family, maybe do something that's different, depending on how much support or lack of we received, that can definitely affect our ability to think on our own and make decisions on our own.

I even share, I think it stayed in the book.

Some of the stories got pulled by my editor, but

One of the stories I share from my community is that she was raised in a very tight-knit, enmeshed family.

And so she didn't really believe that she could go on her own and do her own thing.

She felt like she needed the support of her family.

And her mom and parents never really wanted her or her sisters to move away.

And the one that did, they talked trash on.