Kati Morton

She doesn't know what family means.

I can't believe she'd move away.

And that really affected this member of my community, as she shared, because she never really...

She doesn't even feel like she could take a big trip to Europe because her parents wouldn't want her to.

And she never went away for college, even though she really wanted to make that choice and do that.

And I think in general, a lot of the ways that our family interacts with us and the messages we receive, either overtly or inadvertently, we internalize that.

And it shapes a lot of our independence and autonomy and how able we feel to make the best decision for ourselves.

Yes, I've felt a lot of my life as an autopilot.

And I know that sounds maybe crazy to people from the outside, because like you said, it looks like, oh, but this trajectory is good.

And I even have friends that are like, well, you're so successful.

That's so great.

And I'm like, but did I really choose to do that thing?

It just was the thing that was presented.

And logically, it makes sense, but it might not be the thing that I really wanted.

It's like that there's a huge disconnect sometimes between what we really feel like

If we took the time, because I don't even know if I took the time to decide whether or not that was what I wanted to do versus is that just what's presented?

I even have friends and I don't know if this resonates with you, John, but I have a lot of friends that will say, I don't know how I ended up in HR, but I got that my first job.

And then I just stayed there because I just kept getting promoted and I was making a decent living.

And a lot of us can do that almost live by default.

I had a video I put out.