Kati Morton

It's too overwhelming.

It's too scary.

It's too much.

It's not sustainable, right?

I always tell my audience in general, even in the month of January, I did this little workshop on my Patreon about these small habit shifts.

And I encourage them to pick the easiest thing.

I was like, I want you to not pick something that you're excited to tell people about.

Oh my God, I stopped drinking soda or I don't do this anymore.

I don't want you to even feel any kind of ego about it.

I want it to be really easy.

I want you to be like, why is it even on this list?

This is so simple because those small things do add up and it also builds motivation and we feel good about ourselves versus what can happen as we set these huge lofty goals and think it has to be this one big jump.

And then we feel bad about the fact that we couldn't quite make that jump.

But let's build some stairs as we build our way toward that, you know?

Yes.

Just so everybody knows what fawning is before we start talking about it in a bigger way.

It's essentially what I would call an extreme form of people pleasing.

When we talk about our stress response, we often talk about fight flight.

I'm going to run away or I'm going to fight back.

But especially when we're younger and littler, we can't do those things.