Kati Morton

We're not strong enough to fight.

We aren't fast enough to run.

And so we opt for another way.

And that is to try to make the person so happy that they won't harm us.

So I'm going to try to keep you happy so that I don't feel like I'm under threat.

And I think in general, a lot of us do some form of, we call it people pleasing, like a lighter form.

But fawning is very much the same.

I would use them interchangeably in this case because we're so concerned.

Again, what am I afraid of?

I'm so afraid that...

someone could be upset with me, or I'm so afraid that I could lose connection, that is scarier to me

than me lighting myself on fire to keep you warm.

Meaning I'll just do everything in my power to make sure you're happy, to make sure that those things work for you and that you're okay.

Because once you're calmed, I know I'm not under threat anymore.

I can be calm.

And I forget Yvette's story perfectly.

I'd have to pull it up out of my book.

If you want me to directly connect it, I definitely can.

Oh, and then she, didn't she swing to the complete opposite?

Yeah.