Kati Morton

And I think that a lot of us don't really know how to live in the middle because it's uncomfortable for us to sit with that potential conflict, right?

We'd rather just people please.

And instead of trying to figure out how we can

keep ourselves happy and keep them happy which is this i would say it's like a dance that we have to do instead of trying to learn that new dance we'd rather just slam the door shut say no to everything and go to the complete opposite and that's that story is that she really couldn't figure out how to do it healthily she felt like it was either all or nothing

Yes, because you aren't showing up as authentically you.

You're so busy considering what would make them happy.

What would they like?

How are they feeling?

I've always used to call it my superpower.

I can walk in the room and just read how things are.

Is someone upset?

Is somebody happy with this?

How is this going?

Oh, they're not getting along.

And it is a superpower.

But if I don't know how to manage it, again, finding that healthy middle, if I don't know how to manage it and recognize that their emotional experience is not my responsibility, I can be aware, but I don't have to act in a certain way until I can handle that healthily.

It was just exhausting to me to try to always be tippy-toeing.

making sure everybody's happy, all because it felt too uncomfortable for me to be around a situation where I thought someone was unhappy.

It's like, I don't even exist in that moment because I'm so busy looking outward, right?

I'm not even checking in with myself in any of this.