Kati Morton

My therapist had me, as odd as this sounds, one of the places I apologize the most is like public spaces, like sharing like a grocery store aisle with people.

I say sorry all the time, or I'm traveling right now.

So the airport is also a place where I would do this a lot.

And I can always hear my therapist voice where she's like, you don't have to apologize for taking up space.

You don't have to apologize for being here.

And so that's kind of that first step of work is like, hey, it shows up for me this way.

And so I'm going to try to not do that.

And I know that's very specific, but if each of us are kind of honest with the patterns that we see, we can also, you know, identify some behaviors that we could maybe shift a little bit.

It's not, you know, all or nothing, but apologize a little less when I'm not sorry, when I'm just being a human sharing space.

That's a great question.

My therapist asked me the same thing.

The truth is I don't know.

And I know that makes me sound like I'm losing my marbles.

I promise you I'm not.

It's that I feel like if, so here's an example and this will kind of help me explain it.

Like if let's say you and I are in the grocery store and I haven't met you before, I don't know you.

And we're both looking at cereal.

And you've wanted to cross over where I am looking at cereal because like you want to get to the granola and it's on that side.

As you cross my path and I step back to give space to you, I will apologize.

And it's not because I'm sorry.