Kati Morton

Mine is that I thought, or I believe deeply that I have to earn my worth.

And I know you're like, how does that connect?

It connects in the fact that if we think about like, I feel like I'm a second rate person, like other people's needs come ahead of mine.

That means that in order for me to receive or accept love or attention, I have to earn it.

I have to do something for it.

I have to like pull myself out from the underdog role into the, you know, the leading role.

And that is,

realizing that that core belief was like messing my life up essentially was a huge eye-opener for me and i believe that we all have these false beliefs about self that need identifying and then then that's what we work on does that make sense yeah because i think what what you're describing about yourself so many people identify with that that need to earn your place at the table rather than just feel like you have a place at the table

Exactly.

Easier said than done, right?

My therapist's homework, it's funny when you're like, just stop doing it.

My therapist is like, I want you to try not saying sorry for a week.

I didn't even make it a day, Mike.

It was terrible and embarrassing.

But it was eye-opening, you know, that like, why is this silly behavior?

Like, why do I keep doing this?

And I don't want to.

And it was because it was bigger than that.

I think the why is vital.

I believe strongly that if we just try to, like I said, like trim the leaves off the ends, if we just try to stop doing certain behaviors, it will either, one of two things will happen.