Kati Morton

And I think we often forget that.

And we can get caught like you doing all of this work, thinking that it'll make it better or that this, what I'm doing, I should be feeling good.

This should be fulfilling.

I should be more thankful.

That's how I talk to myself.

I'm like, I should be so thankful I had this opportunity.

We forget that we're humans who need appreciation.

We need variety.

We need to feel like we're valued.

I think I call it the blueprint in the book, the way that we're raised.

And I'll explain that a little bit in just a second.

But I think that blueprint or the way that we're raised by our family is important and valuable to at least understand.

Now, yes, our parents could have set us up for success and we could not feel like we have to earn love or attention.

And we could also feel like it's okay to take up space and speak our needs.

but regardless of whether they did that or didn't, it's really important for us to understand that piece.

Meaning,

that it's helpful in our healing journey to know what the blueprint is for better, for worse.

And this isn't to blame parents.

And this also isn't to condone abusive behavior or anything like that.

It's more in understanding of self.