Kelly Roach

When I accomplish that thing, who do I want to be with? How do I want to feel? What are we going to do together? If you consider all of those implications, it will give you a pretty clear roadmap on what is worth sacrificing and what isn't worth sacrificing. And a lot of times what I see is people are more willing to sacrifice,

When I accomplish that thing, who do I want to be with? How do I want to feel? What are we going to do together? If you consider all of those implications, it will give you a pretty clear roadmap on what is worth sacrificing and what isn't worth sacrificing. And a lot of times what I see is people are more willing to sacrifice,

their time, their health, their relationship, all of these other areas of life. They're willing to sacrifice those things in an instant, but they're not willing to sacrifice just getting themselves uncomfortable to just do the damn thing that they need to do that's going to get them what they want.

their time, their health, their relationship, all of these other areas of life. They're willing to sacrifice those things in an instant, but they're not willing to sacrifice just getting themselves uncomfortable to just do the damn thing that they need to do that's going to get them what they want.

And so there's this massive incongruence between what people say that they want and what they're doing about it. And then they use all these other things as an excuse. So a lot of it is just this radical honesty with ourselves. It's this radical honesty with ourselves.

And so there's this massive incongruence between what people say that they want and what they're doing about it. And then they use all these other things as an excuse. So a lot of it is just this radical honesty with ourselves. It's this radical honesty with ourselves.

And I think going back to what you shared about your TED Talk, it's it all starts with the congruence and the alignment of being on this very personal journey, because the only way that you can come to the right conclusions is if you're looking at it through the right lens.

And I think going back to what you shared about your TED Talk, it's it all starts with the congruence and the alignment of being on this very personal journey, because the only way that you can come to the right conclusions is if you're looking at it through the right lens.

And if you're not looking at it through the right lens, even if you go through the exercise, you won't arrive at the right conclusion, right?

And if you're not looking at it through the right lens, even if you go through the exercise, you won't arrive at the right conclusion, right?

Oh, yeah. No, no, no, no, no.

Oh, yeah. No, no, no, no, no.

Yeah, that is such an interesting question. And I love that you asked that. And I don't know that I have the I'm not the almighty with the perfect answer, but I can certainly give a little bit of my opinion on that. You know, I think I think, first of all, we were given our strengths to exploit them. We are given our gifts from God to use them. That is the primary calling of our lives.

Yeah, that is such an interesting question. And I love that you asked that. And I don't know that I have the I'm not the almighty with the perfect answer, but I can certainly give a little bit of my opinion on that. You know, I think I think, first of all, we were given our strengths to exploit them. We are given our gifts from God to use them. That is the primary calling of our lives.

So to me, I do feel that our strengths were made our strengths because that is where we are meant to assert our power and invest our energy. So I am very much of the idea that leaning into our strengths is the core of how we achieve success.

So to me, I do feel that our strengths were made our strengths because that is where we are meant to assert our power and invest our energy. So I am very much of the idea that leaning into our strengths is the core of how we achieve success.

However, we all have, and I hate saying the word vice because vice many times is used in the context of like drugs, alcohol, like negative habits, but that's not the same as You could be here using your strengths, but because you don't have organization, you're constantly missing this thing that would take you from here to here, right?

However, we all have, and I hate saying the word vice because vice many times is used in the context of like drugs, alcohol, like negative habits, but that's not the same as You could be here using your strengths, but because you don't have organization, you're constantly missing this thing that would take you from here to here, right?

So that's the 20% that we all have to look at to say, okay, 80% of my energy is going to go into maximizing my gifts and deploying my strengths, but I have to pay attention to the 20% that could give me another 80% that I'm ignoring because it's not my natural strength. And that's where I feel like we missed the mark, right?

So that's the 20% that we all have to look at to say, okay, 80% of my energy is going to go into maximizing my gifts and deploying my strengths, but I have to pay attention to the 20% that could give me another 80% that I'm ignoring because it's not my natural strength. And that's where I feel like we missed the mark, right?