Kelly

And I started thinking about him not walking me down the aisle.

And I

that just crushed me so much.

I thought like for the longest time I thought like, okay, I'm, I'm all right.

Like I can have early, I don't need a relationship with him.

It's fine.

But when it came down to the wedding, I was like, there has to be like, this can't keep happening.

This has to be figured out.

So I reached out to my dad and

asked him like if we can just get together and talk about all this which he agreed to and that's when he told me the reason why he stopped talking to me was because of that conversation um he just he thinks he's a burden in my life which he still does think he is

But we at least have a relationship now.

It's never going to be the same, but we just have boundaries now where if he's going through a rough time with Brian, he won't call me.

But if things are okay, he will call me.

So that's kind of where we are right now.

And then the effects on my mom's mental health is she doesn't talk about it as much, too.

She's...

she's also not one to always show her emotions but she just keeps it moving she i can see that she's sad in ways because she already lost one son so it does feel like brian is another loss because it is like dealing with a death we had to say goodbye to his past self and

learn his new self but she's actually thriving at the moment she's on a pickleball team and she's yeah she's doing well she has like so many friends uh that she hangs out with in her retirement community so she's doing good she checks up on brian each day just to make sure that he's taking his doses and she explains to me that she will never let him

go backwards she just wants to see him move forward so her and my dad just try to get along as best as they can to make it all work out for brian at the same time it is

always a conversation about Brian.